Separation Anxiety: When Your Child Will Not Want to Drop the Hand

The child development provides steps in which it is expected that the child might have anxiety when moving away from the one who is nearest to you. However, when the fears are excessive and persistent, and the concerns are present before and at the time of the separation, we may be dealing with a case of separation anxiety. You know everything.

About Separation Anxiety

The fear of being separated from parents is a fear typical in small children and usually is in the passenger seat. However, some children continue to feel this fear is very intense and persistent, to the point of interfering with your well-being and the well-being of his family. In these cases, we may be dealing with a case of separation anxiety.

ANXIETY DISORDER SEPARATION

The diagnosis of anxiety disorder separation implies that the child is present fear and anxiety (excessive and inappropriate in relation to their level of development) related to separation from those to whom it is linked.

The main feature of this disorder is, therefore, the presence of fear or anxiety excessive related to separation from home or from people with whom the child has a close relationship.

THE MAIN SIGNS AND SYMPTOMS

For the diagnosis to be taken into consideration must be present some of the following signs and symptoms:

  • Evil-to be excessive and recurring that occurs or is anticipated separation from home or major figures of the binding;
  • Excessive worry and persistent over the possible loss of the principal figures of linking, or by possible evils which may happen to these people, such as disease, injury, disasters or death;
  • Excessive worry and persistent by the possibility that an adverse event (lost; being kidnapped; to have an accident) can lead to separation from an important figure linking;
  • Persistent reluctance or refusal to leave the house for school, for work, or to another location;
  • Reluctance or fear that is excessive and persistent to be at home, or in other situations, alone, or without the main figures of the binding;
  • Persistent reluctance or refusal to sleep away from home or fall asleep without being near an important figure linking;
  • Repeated nightmares involving the theme of separation;
  • When you are in the presence of their parents not away from and acts almost as if it were the shadow of them;
  • Repeated complaints of physical symptoms (headaches; stomach pain; vomiting) when occurs or is anticipated separation;
  • Fear of the dark or other fears;
  • Difficulties in falling asleep, leading to the presence of a person nearby;
  • Behaviors of avoidance: refusal to go to school, to parties, tours of the school, sleeping in friends house;
  • Frequently asked questions about if and when to get to school.

AS BEHAVES THE CHILD IN SITUATIONS OF SEPARATION OF PARENTS?

In situations in which the child with separation anxiety is far away from the parents shows:

  • Apreensividade;
  • Social withdrawal;
  • Apathy;
  • Sadness;
  • Nostalgia;
  • Uncomfortable;
  • Have fantasies of reunion and is looking forward to return as soon as possible home;
  • The absence of behavior of game, or joke in the younger child;
  • Difficulty concentrating on school tasks in the older child.

AS BEHAVES THE CHILD IN SITUATIONS IN WHICH IT ANTICIPATES THE SEPARATION OF THE PARENTS?

In situations in which the child anticipates separation from the parents it is possible to observe the following situations:

  • Physical complaints that are the result of high tension in which it is located (stomach aches, headaches, palpitations, vomiting, and fainting);
  • May become aggressive toward the person that, in his opinion, force the separation.

AS A CONSEQUENCE OF SEPARATION ANXIETY

Separation anxiety is committed to the development of the child, especially at the level of acquisition of autonomy and the development of knowledge about the physical environment and social.

School performance can also suffer, either by the child’s difficulties in concentrating on the tasks instead of the concerns, either by missing school.

The acquisition of interpersonal skills may also be compromised due to less interaction with colleagues.

Separation anxiety in childhood is a risk factor for the development of many anxiety disorders and, among them, the disorder of panic attacks and also disturbances of mood, in adult life.

HOW TO SOLVE THE PROBLEM OF SEPARATION ANXIETY?

This disorder should be treated as early as possible, to relieve the great suffering that entails for the child, but also to prevent the worsening of the clinical picture.

The assessment of the disturbance of separation anxiety is made from the information provided by the child and by the parents, but also through the administration of psychological assessment instruments.

Psychotherapy is the form of intervention indicated to treat the anxiety disorder separation: the child is helped to understand their fears and acquires greater capacity to express and deal with negative feelings.

In some cases, recourse to drug therapy may be necessary, in order to improve the symptoms, alleviate the suffering and allow that in the sessions of psychotherapy are developed the personal resources that will ensure a greater emotional balance of the child.

When the medication is part of treatment it is essential that it is taken properly, according to the indications of the physician who prescribed it (pediatrician, pediatric neurologist and pedopsiquiatra).